I see the word comparison a lot on social media (in particular on Instagram). It is a thing that seems to niggle at so many of us, but why?
I have been guilty of comparing myself to others, who hasn’t? But how far do we allow it to niggle at us before it causes real harm?
If you think back to childhood, I am sure (perhaps without realising it) you compared yourself to other children all of the time…”oh they have that toy and I don’t, or Jane’s mummy let’s James do this or that? I think comparison is a natural thing…but Social Media, and the Media add a new pressure into the mix.
Before I started blogging, and having a social media outlet for it, I used to compare my company to other similar companies. It got SO bad that one day I threw my laptop on the floor in frustration. Consequently it broke.
This was the tipping point for me. There and then I promised myself I would never compare myself to anything, or anyone again.
When your mind is busy looking and focusing on other people’s lives or content, you are instantly blocking your own creativity. You will subconsciously be following the crowd, and stopping the natural growth of organic ideas.
It is also a counterproductive use of time. Whilst you are scrolling Instagram or websites you are not creating.
The other side effect of comparison is the damning effect it has on mental health. It triggers doubt in your mind, and can make you question you. You can start to beat yourself emotionally, which is far from OK.
If you start to feel the niggle of comparison in a negative way, instantly step away from it. Make a cup of tea, go for a walk. Do not let comparison feed itself.
You are good enough, and the only person you should be comparing yourself to is you. Make you better and stronger. Most importantly just be you! There is only one of you Kxx
(I am not expert these are just my opinions)
On Saturday night we headed out for an early dinner with some of my family. We rarely do this, as I worry (perhaps a little too much) about bubs going to bed past her bed time. It was so lovely however, and we all had a great time!
We headed to The Chequers Inn, which is based in Lytchett Matravers in Dorset. We had never been there before so I really didn't know what to expect.
On arrival my first impression was it was a warm, family friendly (so important for us) and welcoming pub. We sat at a lovely round table so we could all chat, which was perfect.
They had a main menu, as well as a specials board. The menu had a nice selection of pub grub. It also included a strong children's menu. I ordered the Cajun Chicken Burger, which came with a mixed salad and home cooked french fries. I have to say visually it looked yummy, and it tasted as good as it looked! My little lady had homemade fish fingers, chips and peas. The portion size was very generous, and she enjoyed it very much.
As well as the food being tasty, what really stood out to me was just how baby/child friendly the pub was. They had a toy section, which bubs enjoyed playing in. I also spotted two mums openly breastfeeding, which is how it should be (in my opinion).
I didn't have a desert as I was SO full after my main meal, Other members of my family did, and said they were delicious. In particular the homemade Chocolate Brownie looked amazing!
The service was very good, They checked back on us a little way into our main meal, and asked us if we would like more drinks every now and again.
If you are looking for a family friendly pub in beautiful Dorset, I would highly recommend The Chequers Inn.
The Chequers Inn
75 High St, Lytchett Matravers, Poole BH16 6BJ
Tel: 01202 622215
The weather hasn't been so great, so my little lady and I have been getting our creative hats on! We made lots of crafty bits and bobs last week which was great fun!
One of our makes was the cutest hedgehog! It was a really easy craft to do, so I thought I would share it all with you! Below is what you will need to make your hedgehog, and how to make it:
How Do I make my hedgehog?
If you have a go at making this please share it using #mybestmake we would love to see your crafty makes!
Do you have a favourite place? Mine has to be Kingston Lacy! I love visiting all year round! It is the perfect day out for all of the family. In fact it is the first place we took bubs when she was first born (all a bit of an exhausted blur if if I am honest, but still so special to the hubby and I!)
A beautiful country house and estate near Wimborne Minster, Dorset was for many years owned by the Bankes family. Now the estate is run by the National Trust, and loved so much.
I can't explain it, but every time I visit I feel like I am "home" (dreaming I know), but it just makes me feel happy.
My favourite time of the year to visit is the spring when the vast gardens are in bloom, and the blossom is stunning. The gardens are taken great care of, and so interesting all year round. In the summer families come along with picnics and enjoy them on the beautifully maintained lawns. Such a happy atmosphere.
If you are looking for something to do as a family, that is fun, beautiful, and full of history I would highly recommend a trip to Kingston Lacy!
I cannot believe we are in October already! This year is flying by! I have had such a brilliant year so far, and I have so much to look forward to this month. So much so I thought I would share it all with you!
Sad some may say... but it has always been on my bucket list to go to the Ritz for afternoon tea! I was lucky enough to be given tea for two at the Ritz for Christmas last year! We have finally found the time to book it in later this month! Needless to say I am pretty excited!
How has this come around again already! Another year older and wiser...not! I am looking forward to spending the day with my little lady celebrating!
Pumpkin Patch Visit
As we are officially in autumn it is only right we take a trip to a local pumpkin patch! Check some local ones out here. We love doing this as a family, we may even stop for a cheeky roast on the way home!
A FAMILY TRIP TO PEPPA PIG WORLD
We are hoping we make it to Peppa Pig World this month! It is on the cards. We went last year but bubs was quite young, so I think she will get much more from it at this age.
Bubs and I love to craft, and this is the best season for it! We will be sharing on makes on here and my Instagram page! So keep a look out for these!
So much to look forward to! What are you looking forward to this October?
Autumn used to be my favourite time of the year! The beautiful rich colours of the landscape, the cosy nights in wrapped in a blanket. Since having bubs I feel a little bit different...I find being stuck in the house on a rainy day hard with a busy toddler. Finding new indoor activities can sometimes be a challenge.
We love arts and crafts. So I thought it would be fun to make lots more together over the next coming months, keeping us busy. I will be sharing our crafty ideas through a series of blog posts, and on my Instagram stories!
Yesterday bubs and I got started crafting as it was a miserable day! We went out into the woods, to collect leaves and sticks to make arts and crafts with. This in itself was a lovely activity, that cost absolutely nothing!
When we got home we set out a table cloth, some paints, brushes, paper/card, glitters, a pot of water, and our leaf collection. The first leaf art activity we did was "Painted Leaf Art. Here is what we did:
Painted Leaf art:
This was my little ladies favourite leaf art to do! It came out really well. Simple yet effective. The next Leaf Art we did was "Leaf Printing" Here is how we did it:
These children's crafts were so lovely to do, and so easy to do! As well as the crafts being fun they will help with my little ladies hand eye coordination, understanding of colour, mark making, and lots more!
Are there any crafts you would love to see? We would love to hear your crafty ideas!
Hi! I am Katie... a new mum trying to balance life, work and a beautiful baby girl! I love to take photos, travel, write, make art, and spend time with my family! xx