Comparison, The Thief Of Joy.

I see the word comparison a lot on social media (in particular on Instagram). It is a thing that seems to niggle at so many of us, but why?

I have been guilty of comparing myself to others, who hasn’t? But how far do we allow it to niggle at us before it causes real harm?

If you think back to childhood, I am sure (perhaps without realising it) you compared yourself to other children all of the time…”oh they have that toy and I don’t, or Jane’s mummy let’s James do this or that? I think comparison is a natural thing…but Social Media, and the Media add a new pressure into the mix.

Before I started blogging, and having a social media outlet for it, I used to compare my company to other similar companies. It got SO bad that one day I threw my laptop on the floor in frustration. Consequently it broke.

This was the tipping point for me. There and then I promised myself I would never compare myself to anything, or anyone again. 

When your mind is busy looking and focusing on other people’s lives or content, you are instantly blocking your own creativity. You will subconsciously be following the crowd, and stopping the natural growth of organic ideas.

It is also a counterproductive use of time. Whilst you are scrolling Instagram or websites you are not creating.

The other side effect of comparison is the damning effect it has on mental health. It triggers doubt in your mind, and can make you question you. You can start to beat yourself emotionally, which is far from OK.

If you start to feel the niggle of comparison in a negative way, instantly step away from it. Make a cup of tea, go for a walk. Do not let comparison feed itself.

You are good enough, and the only person you should be comparing yourself to is you. Make you better and stronger. Most importantly just be you! There is only one of you Kxx

(I am not expert these are just my opinions)